Don't let a broken streak break your habit

I've been thinking about habits lately. And streaks. And that quiet, sinking feeling when you miss a day and suddenly wonder if the whole thing still counts.

You know the pattern. You start strong—fresh notebook, clean calendar, a satisfying row of checkmarks. Then life happens. You get sick. It rains. Work swallows your evening. One missed day becomes two, and instead of just picking back up, you stop. The streak feels ruined, so why bother?

But here's what I've learned: a broken streak isn't a failure. It's just a pause. And when we make perfection the point, we lose sight of what we actually wanted—which was never flawlessness. It was change. Growth. A life that looks a little different than it did before.

Let me tell you about my 10,000 steps challenge.

Halfway through 2025, I decided I wanted to average 10,000 steps a day by year's end. Not in January or during a tidy 30-day challenge. Just a quiet decision in the middle of everything, knowing I'd already "missed" half the year.

Some days I walked 15,000 steps without trying. Other days I barely cracked 8,000. Some weeks were solid. Others were a mess. But I kept coming back to it. And by December 31st, I'd hit my goal—not because every day was perfect, but because the imperfect days still added up.

All was not lost just because I started late or stumbled along the way. This is where streaks can mess with us.

Think about it this way:

Scenario 1: You miss a day here and there, but you keep going anyway. Even if you stumble once a week, you still end up with hundreds of days practicing the thing you cared about. That's real momentum. That's progress.

Scenario 2: You miss one day early on, decide the streak is broken, and tell yourself you'll start fresh next month. Or next year. You end up with far fewer days actually doing the thing.

The difference isn't discipline. It's how you frame the wobble.

If you've missed a day—or a week—on something that matters to you, let this be your reminder: nothing is ruined. You didn't fail. You didn't erase what came before. You just paused. And you're allowed to start again today.

Ask yourself what you're really after. Better health? More time outside? A calmer mind? Let that be your anchor when motivation dips or routines fall apart. Lasting change isn't dramatic. It's built quietly, imperfectly, over time. Progress counts even when it's slow. Effort matters even when it's messy. What matters most is showing up more often than not.

So if your streak has a gap? Let it. Draw the next box. Take the next step. Keep going. Your future self will be glad you didn't quit over one imperfect day.

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• The ten minute rule: Some is better than none and “doing” leads to “done”.
• A brief guide to time blocking: How to reclaim some of your precious time and avoid pre-appointment limbo.
• One simple habit for staying organized: My most powerful habit for staying organized and productive is easier than you might think.